New Application Process for ACP Grant Applicants

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Applicants, please read carefully.

Effective immediately, we at the Abortion Conversation Projects are trying something new. We want to “workshop” your project idea before you submit an actual application. First, we want you to fill out our online idea form to tell us about your project idea. We will review and invite the projects we think could benefit from our input for a virtual brainstorming session. We will “workshop” it together.

So, what does “workshop” mean?  Normally, we are not in favor of making nouns into verbs, but “workshopping” does capture a group process where we discuss, question, suggest, comment on an idea. Feedback, critique, brainstorm are other words that might mean the same thing.

In practical terms, we would invite you (more than one if you like) to present your idea briefly to a group of people with various skills, perspectives, and experiences. ACP typically meets on Zoom which can handle phone or internet connection. The meeting would be a small group discussing your project idea with the goal of making it better. Better means 1) addressing abortion stigma effectively, 2) getting the word out about it, 3) organizing your community to support it, 4) creating an evaluation to measure success.

Because this is the first year we’re doing this, we expect to choose a limited number of projects to move to the workshopping phase.  From these, we will invite you to incorporate what you like of our feedback and submit a formal proposal for seed grants.

What are we looking for? What are we looking for? Good question! Of course we will be looking for projects we like. We like innovative approaches to reducing stigma on any of the levels that stigma exists (the personal individual, community, media, institution policy etc etc see link on site). We like grassroots community efforts that promote face to face conversation. We like projects that can be evaluated and show that certain strategies hold promise in lots of different settings. We like evidence!

We also believe that tapping into our expertise and experience is at least as important as the relatively small amounts of funds we can offer. The projects that have been able to engage with us have had the best results and the best chance at sustainability. Besides, this is the work we love the most.

What if you don’t get chosen?  It’s not because you don’t have a great idea. Or even that we don’t like it. It’s that we want to pick projects where we can offer significant feedback.  And we can still talk to you about your project on a one to one basis. Or, we could discuss re-submitting the proposal at the next cycle. We are a small board (want to join us?) and we have to use our time and talents in the most efficient way possible.

That said, send us your ideas! The form is pretty simple and writing your thoughts down will help in planning. We really want to hear from you.

 Thanks for the work you do to challenge stigma!

Bold, Creative, and Brave: 2019 Vision Award to Shout Your Abortion

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Below is a blog post by Shout Your Abortion and coincidentally ACP chose SYA as its Vision Award recipient at the Abortion Care Network Conference March 4th.

In our award speech, we recited the great quote by Muriel Rukeyser:

“What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life?

The world would split open.”

Presented by Brooke Bailey and Peg Johnston, we continued:  In 2015, that’s what happened when Amelia Bonow posted on social media that she had an abortion. With the hashtag #ShoutYourAbortion Amelia and Lindy West unleashed a viral outpouring of storytelling. They weren’t the first to “come out” about abortion but they threw off the stigma of abortion at a crucial moment in history, and our world did split open. They followed up that viral moment with a savvy organization that continues to make room for people to stand up and shed that stigma. Shout Your Abortion makes stigma busting look cool and fun but we all know the bravery it takes to withstand the backlash of the stigmatizers. Undaunted, they keep trying out a dizzying array of strategies.

 

Abortion Conversation Projects and Shout Your Abortion: Partners in Stigma Busting

By Erin Jorgensen, SYA Communications Director

 

Shout Your Abortion recently worked with Abortion Conversation Projects to help distribute the new Shout Your Abortion book to abortion clinics across the USA. I’ve been trying to write an objective blog post about the experience, but I keep failing because everything keeps turning back to my personal experience with abortion...

Before I worked in abortion activism with Shout Your Abortion, I was (and still am!) a person who had multiple abortions. I remember the doctor appointments, the packed waiting rooms with none of us looking each other in the face. The weird silence in a room full of people, the reading material consisting of health pamphlets and months-old magazines. In my experience none of us talked to each other about what we were all there to do. Not beforehand in the waiting room as the hours dragged on, not afterwards when we got juice and crackers, not really even with the doctors and nurses themselves. No one really said the word “abortion” out loud. It is strange to realize that my abortion experiences were very isolating, even though I was surrounded by people, all of us doing the same thing.

Nothing like the SYA book existed then. I can’t imagine how comforting it would have been to pick up a book full of art, life, and people talking about their abortions on their own terms. I had no idea that so many other people had abortions, for so many different reasons. I had no idea it was ok to speak openly and freely about abortion, that it was ok to take control of your own life, that I wasn’t a bad person or even a person in the minority. I feel that a book like this would have saved me from years of shame and silence, from contributing to abortion stigma myself out of fear.

The Shout Your Abortion book is a first of its kind - a beautiful coffee table book packed with abortion art, stories, and resources. There are personal abortion stories, told in the narrator’s own words, accompanied by professional portraits; abortion art, abortion activism; abortion fashion (yes, it’s real, and it’s cool) and much more. The book is an incredibly strong testament to the strength of all of us who have decided to have abortions for any reason and to the incredible power in owning and sharing our own stories.

The book itself is a beautiful authentic work of art and we are so proud of everyone whose work and words appears in it. We are so grateful to people who offered their honest, wildly differing life stories in such a public way. With the help of Abortion Conversation Projects we have been able to get this book into abortion clinics all across the USA! We hope this book provides a sense of community, connection, and power to people waiting to get their abortions. We hope they see themselves reflected in some way and realize they are NOT alone. We hope they will take advantage of the many resources provided and are inspired to perhaps share their own abortion stories, in any way that feels genuine and safe. In this way we can dismantle the stigma of abortion one story at a time.

Thank you ACP for helping to make this happen!

Shout Your Abortion is a decentralized network of individuals talking about abortion on our own terms and encouraging others to do the same. Following the US Congress’s attempts to defund Planned Parenthood in 2015, the hashtag #ShoutYourAbortion became a viral conduit for abortion storytelling, receiving extensive media coverage and positioning real human experiences at the center of America’s abortion debate for the very first time. SYA quickly evolved into a grassroots movement, which has inspired countless individuals to share their abortion stories through art, media, and community events all over the country. Learn more and submit your own abortion story at shoutyourabortion.com.

 

 

Are you a abortion clinic who received the book or would like to?

The ACP grant afforded us the opportunity to send approximately 40 books, but to date we have received 105 requests which we fulfilled with other income sources. These clinics have had books for a couple of months now and we’re excited to hear how this project is impacting their clients. If you have a Shout Your Abortion book in your waiting or recovery room, it would be wonderful if you could drop us a quick line to let us know any feedback! If you are a clinic who missed this first opportunity, please let us know about your interest here. We will be fundraising to send more books to clinics this spring!

 

 

 

 

The Good Surprises of My Two Abortions: The Story Behind 2+ Abortions @AboboBravado

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This is a picture of me in the moment I realized my friend Martha had orchestrated a surprise birthday party when I turned 36. The feeling of electric delight from the shock was uncontainable.

I still marvel that everyone involved had been able to keep the party a secret.

But here’s the thing. I had my own secret, and it wasn’t delightful. Soon enough, my constant companion named Shame would lean in and whisper into my ear:

You had two abortions. If they knew, they wouldn’t have come to the party. They wouldn’t even want to be near you.”

Shame has harassed me since the age of 13, when I became pregnant through unloving sex that I barely comprehended. My parents arranged an abortion and told me I must never talk about it to anyone. In the years after, I noticed that the only people talking about abortion were people who said it is murder, which hurt me deeply.

At 19, I needed another abortion during an emotionally abusive relationship with a man who did not want to be a father. I was horrified and disgusted with myself. One abortion was bad enough, Shame said. What kind of monster has two?

I was certain that no one else had ever had two abortions. Why would I think otherwise? You are a very bad person, Shame said. No one else on earth is as bad as you.

Recently I learned that 45 percent of US abortion patients have had one or more prior abortions. Many of them here and abroad live in silence and isolation, feeling an extra level of shame.

I started a Twitter account called 2+ Abortions @AboboBravado in hopes of helping them understand that they are not alone and they are not bad. This is the story of the long road leading to this project of love.

Not being forced into childbirth allowed me to live a very good life that has included a good education, a fulfilling career, a wonderful husband, two amazing sons, and two precious grandchildren.

But throughout all the years, I never heard anyone say anything compassionate about people who end a pregnancy. In the silence, shame flourished in my mind and etched itself into my bones.

I broke my silence at age 40 when I confided in one friend, which set me on a path of ‘coming out’ that is still in progress.

In 2013, at the age of 54, I found the courage to tell my sons about my two abortions. I had feared all my life that they would no longer love me if they knew. But they were so unspeakably compassionate.

A few weeks later, I had a delightful surprise. I was scrolling through the news saw an article that led me to the home page of ANSIRH. To my amazement, I saw photos of researchers who were hard at work to end abortion stigma. What a revelation!

I set out to find small ways to contribute and was thrilled to find The Abortion Conversation Project and the Sea Change Program, organizations that help people talk about abortion so that we can transform our culture of shame into a culture of respect. These organizations helped me share my story publicly. I also started escorting clinic patients past protesters, and giving emotional and practical support to people through the abortion fund Access Reproductive Care-Southeast.

Another surprise hit me in 2014 when I discovered The Abortion Diary Podcast. Listening to the unfiltered abortion stories of people around the world made me feel less alone. I heard episodes of people sharing about having more than one abortion and realized I’m not the only one who’s had two abortions!

One day in 2017, I chanced upon a Facebook post that featured a word I’d never seen — abobo. It was a made-up word, a term of endearment for abortion being used by a champion of reproductive justice. I was thrilled to see a fresh green word sprout up through a crack in our severe reproductive lexicon.

It’s crucial for all of us to say abortion out loud. There’s no other way to de-stigmatize the word and the procedure. Still, people who are against abortion have owned the word for a long time, using it as a weapon against us. It’s hard to say a word that hurts. 

Creative words like abobo bring hope that one day we will have a lush lingo that will help us talk about our abortion experiences with the nuance and poetry they deserve.

Here’s a confession. When I started telling the truth about my two abortions, I was so naive. I fully believed that if only people would listen to us and learn how their shaming causes suffering, they would stop.

But the grim reality crystallized one day when I was escorting at Feminist Women’s Health Center, where protesters brandished megaphones to amplify their threats of eternal damnation.

A man had brought his wife to the clinic to end a planned pregnancy that was medically unviable. He walked over to the protesters to explain his pain.  I could not hear him, but his carriage was crestfallen and his hands were pleading. He came back toward the clinic shaken, rivers of tears spilling down his face, as the protesters resumed taunting him.

That day, I resolved not to focus on the shame-makers. Other advocates are better equipped — and in some parts of the world they have succeeded in convincing lawmakers to create effective clinic buffer zones to keep the bullies at bay.

Instead, I want to focus on people who are the targets of shame. I’ve been trying to connect with people in my local community who’ve experienced abortion. The statistics tell me they are here, but how to find them?

Last week, feeling unusually brave, I posted this New York Times article about the criminalization of pregnancy on a closed Facebook group of local Democrats, with a comment about being grateful I had not been forced into motherhood at 13. 

I hoped someone who had experienced abortion would reach out to me with a private message. But silence ensued . . . and Shame started talking . . . and I sank into the blues.

Then I thought about all the people out in the world who are suffering because of abortion shame and restrictions to access. Many experience an extra level of shame if they end a later pregnancy or have multiple abortions.

How could I help? Where is my niche in this movement?

That’s when I decided to create a Twitter account to send love and encouragement to people who have had more than one abortion. I resolved to find and post stories of people who have bravely told the truth about the need for abortion care at more than one time in their lives. I clarified three goals:

1. To create a global space to help people who have had two or more abortions to 'find their people' and understand that they are not alone. 

2. To help raise global awareness of the many abortion storytelling platforms and organizations in the world.
3. To help amplify research articles from around the world that reveal and explain the common need for people to seek abortion at more than one time in their lives. 

I tinkered with what to call the account, fearing the trolls. At first I wanted to center the word love to convey what’s driving me. But I decided to advertise the truth with candor and creativity — using the word abortion as well as abobo, the word that had given me a happy surprise.

I added bravado to salute the people who are sharing publicly about having more than one abortion. It’s a noun whose synonyms include audacity, boldness, derring-do, heroic deed, valor, sass and rebelliousness.

I hope the truth tweeting out on 2+ Abortions @AboboBravado will drown out the voices of shame in the world and in our heads.

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Karen Thurston is an abortion storyteller, an activist, and an advocate.  She is a former board member of ACP.